The Ultimate Outsider…


We live in a world where social interaction is a vital process in survival. So, it is extremely crucial for us to receive an adequate amount of attention from other human beings. It is also very important to fill the void of loneliness in our life by developing a small to large group of associates that share the same interests or ideas as us. Now, socialization is all fine and dandy when you find the right group of friends, but what if you NEVER feel like you belong anywhere?!?

This is how I am feeling at the moment.. No matter what I do or who I meet, I feel like I do not belong. I also feel that I really cannot put myself in a correct subculture to describe my interests and things that I like. People can immediately distinct themselves as a nerd, fangirl or even a skater. Yet, my interests are ALL OVER THE PLACE that I really cannot put a label on myself.  I know that it is weird and probably really  stupid to stress over, but it can be rather sad when you believe that you will never find people you can identify with! My first encounter with this realization was when my roommate stated that she was a geek and she loved being that way! I started to think that I do like similar entertainment choices as her, but I don’t think that people who identify as “geeks” would accept me into their subculture because of other interests that I like. I started to think about where I may belong and, NOPE, NADA, NOTHING came to mind!! Then, I started to feel very subconscious and fearful that I may not fit in anywhere or with anybody!

Does anyone else feel like this? It is a peculiar type of loneliness that I have struggled with all of my life! The feeling that no matter how many people you meet or friends you make, you will ALWAYS feel like you don’t belong. Like the ultimate outsider.

I have come to terms that I am a bit different from people I regularly meet and that’s okay! I am learning everyday that feeling this way actually helps me to meet people with different interests and learn new, exciting things. If you suffer from this strange cognition as I do, don’t fret! We will get through this together!

P.S.: Please comment or email your stories if you ever felt this way! I would love to hear them and know that I am not alone in the world 🙂

7 thoughts on “The Ultimate Outsider…

  1. Maybe you don’t need a certain group or a mold to fit into. If you have many interests, listen to various types of music that’s fine. Maybe you won’t ever find a person who is exactly the same as you are, but that’s not the end of the world. If you have many friends you’ll notice that every single one of them has a certain interest as you do and that’s enough. When the time comes you’ll meet a person who’s the same as you are or at least who you’ll share a lot of your interests with, just leave that to the time to work it itself.

    • Thanks for the comment! I have always felt that way. Maybe because I have literally always been the ‘sore thumb’ out my group of friends. But maybe I do put too much emphasis on trying to find somewhere I belong when I should really focus on finding people who accept me for me. Thanks for the insight 🙂

      • You’re welcome:) When you are yourself right people will eventually come. It might take some time but they will(Personal experience) If you don’t listen to yourself when they do come you’ll see how much you’ve lost.

  2. Ah, another multipotentialite. A minority you are. There are others like you. You just need to learn where to look. Start by looking at yourself, and accept the beautiful things that make you different. Own those things, love them, love yourself. Look with new eyes; when I did, I found someone like me practically instantly, and I’m never looking back. We’re here. You’re not alone.

  3. I have definitely felt this way. I am introverted, so I feel like an outsider a lot of the time. I found a place where I feel like I belong in the rave scene, but aside from that I feel like an alien lol.

    • I completely understand what you mean! Finding a place where you belong can be so hard! But that unfamiliarity can be a curse, yet a blessing at times. I’ve learned that because I can’t really find a place, I don’t ever feel settled. Personally, this is advantageous because it aids to deprive myself of complacency, and yet, strive for self progression. As I grow older, I begin to see that being an outsider isn’t necessarily a bad thing because it challenges me to grow and continually see the world in a different light.

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