I Had To Stop Shaming My Body ….

unnamed-2Summer is in full immense and the weather feels hotter than ever! You know what that means right? Time to put away the long sleeves and bring out the tanks and shorts. This is all fine and dandy for some, but for the rest of us who may have body insecurities, its not so wonderful. I know the select few people who know me will be thinking, “What body insecurities could you possibly have?” Well, I’m going to tell you, BUT before I do, you must promise me that you won’t be judgmental.

You promise??

 

pinky swear…

 

Okay then. I’m insecure about my muscular arms…
I know. Some of you reading this probably want to hit me in the face, but please, try to at least understand my point of view. I’m a tall woman (6’2 to be exact) who has always had a hard time feeling womanly. Ever since I was young, I was extremely girly and adored indulging in activities that society deemed as “feminine” (i.e. barbie dolls, makeup, that stupid easy baked oven that NEVER baked the cookies all the way, etc.) . As I continued to grow taller, I became more insecure with who I was and the way I looked because we are programed at a young age to perceive that a tall stature is more of a masculine feature. And all I ever wanted was to feel “dainty” and “cute”, which are typical attributes of femininity.
It didn’t help either that, as I progressed in my basketball career in high school and college, my body had the ability to develop muscle mass rather QUICKLY. My arms looked so built that even an ex- marine officer was astonished when he saw them. It may have been fascinating for some, but not to me. I felt even more masculine than I did before.

Now,

I look back and see how foolish I was to think like that. In fact, a lot of people never saw my arms as gross, but they truly admired them. Additionally, I began to feel a lot better about it when I saw beautiful women like Michelle Obama, Angela Bassett, Misty Copeland and Simone Biles, gracefully and confidently, show off their muscular physiques. The lesson I want you to get from this story is: STOP ALLOWING YOURSELF TO SHAME YOUR BODY! Forget what society tells you on how your body should be and find contentment in your physical feautures. No matter if you are a size 2 or 2x, you are beautiful and deserve to see all the glory and power there is in being you! So, let us not forget that body shaming comes in all different sizes and we (yes I’m talking to you) need to rally together, support one another and change the common perception of what an “acceptable”  female body looks like. As a woman, you have all the credentials to establish your own definition of femininity. Don’t let this chauvinistic world tell you otherwise…

 

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Gotta Love the Classics?

Hello Lovelies,

I hope everyone had a great Sunday! For today’s look, I really wanted to capture the essence of a chic and sophisticated look. So I paired my thrifted black blazer with my new monochromatic patterned pencil skirt. To add color to this look, I also wore my Joe Fresh purple sweater.

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When I think of what a sophisticated outfit entails, the first thing that I think of are Mary Jane Pumps. Thankfully, I was able to get these Mary Janes for only $20 last year!

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Although this style may not be the trendiest, I enjoy it’s simplicity and chicness. It’s nice to be able to wear a classic look from time to time. It’s amazing to realize that clothing items that are considered classic, like Mary Jane Pumps, are still around. To me, they will never go out of style.

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So tell me what do you think of a classic look? Is it a style that will always be cherished or is it something that is fading to the background in this world that loves a youthful and urban style? Let me know in the comments below and also tell me what type of style you like the most!

Take Care,
– Properly Posh

Sunny Friday

Hello Lovelies,

The weather was wonderful for the end of the week. I think that a nice sunny day is something we all need due to the brutal winter we all had to suffer. To celebrate this very warm day, I decided to wear my new patterned pants, or what many people call “pj” pants.

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The fabric is extremely soft and it feels like your wearing, well, a pair of pajamas. Due to the thinness of the fabric, I wanted to wait for a nice, cool day to bust these out to wear to class. I paired my button down white collar top with a pair of oxford flats to keep the outfit casual.

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For accessories, I wore my triangle and owl necklace. I do not always wear two necklaces at once, but I thought it was appropriate since the triangle necklace is closer to my neck and the owl necklace has a longer chain. If you would like to try to wear more than one necklace at a time, try not to over accessorize. Two to three necklaces at different lengths will suggest that you are a trendsetter. More than that just looks like too much and can make your ensemble look overwhelming. Make sure that you do not wear a lot of rings, bracelets and earrings as well. That can also make your outfit look too busy. Remember, accessories are meant to enhance an outfit, not take away from it.  

Take Care
– Properly Posh

An Oldie But A Goodie

Hey lovelies,
Winter has been brutal this year, even in states that rarely receive a snowflake. Although the weather has been extremely cold for the past week or two, I shall not let that stop me for trying to look my best every day! My highlight outfit for this week is definitely my black and white skirt with my black thrifted sweater. This black and white skirt is actually a dress that I have had since I was 6 or 7 years old! Once I went through my awkward growth spurt stage in my tween years, I never thought it would appropriately fit me. Recently, I found the skirt in the back of my closet and decided to try it on for old time sake. And shockingly, it hit just above my knee, which is appropriate length from my perspective. I added a pair of opaque tights and my Rue 21 olive jacket.

Now, there’s a moral to the story. Don’t throw away or give up on clothing items that you may not like at the time or cannot fit into. You may change your perspective later in the future or your body may physically change. Also, push your creative buttons! If your perspective does not change, make a DIY project out it by altering the clothing item into something that you find unique and interesting.

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Take Care,
– Properly Posh

Take Me Back to the Good Old Day

Hey lovelies,

I love the ensemble that I wore on Wednesday of this week. Recently, I bought a very unique fox sweater from JC Penney’s and I could not wait to wear it!

Thankfully, my thrifted striped skirt went well with the sweater. I added my black ankle boots and, presto, I have a casual and unique fall outfit for class.

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Take Care
-properly posh