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My New Perspective on Beauty

Although it took decades, I have finally realized that not everyone, including myself, can be drop dead gorgeous. I’m not the girl with the beautiful hazel eyes, perfect round jawline and exquisite narrow nose. For years, I have been struggling with the realization that there is a large majority of people that may not find me attractive. At first, this realization did upset me because I wanted to be that girl who had 4 or 5 gorgeous guys follow her around like puppy dogs! (Yeah, I watched WAY too many RomComs when I was younger). As a nine year old, I had envisioned my high school life to be full of receiving sweet and flattering attention from the opposite sex, but only if I was “that” girl. Needless to say, I will NEVER be “that” girl! As I get older, I am realizing that not being seen this way is quite okay. There are so many women who strive, even going as far as changing their physical appearance, to look like models, actresses or even music artists who are perceived in “that” way. But why should we try to look like someone with no rare essence or features? Also, who gave media and entertainment the privilege to choose what is considered beautiful and what is not? We should not have to feel that the only way to feel good about ourselves is to try to mirror the looks of a self absorbed pop star or model that probably went under the knife and lied that they were “born with their face”. Let’s stop this repetitive cycle of craving to look like these people on television and despising our own physical flaws! Our physical flaws make us powerful and unique when we cherish them. It can be easy to get down on yourself and negatively talk about something you may not like about your body. Instead, try to accept that you were born with it and make it something positive. There is nothing wrong with being unconventional and not looking like an airbrush model out of a magazine.

One person that I truly respect for sticking to her own rules and not breaking down to society’s standards of beauty is Barbara Streisand. Many in Hollywood advised her that getting a nose job would substantially aid her career. Although this “advice” may have been tempting for Barbara, she continued to stay true to herself and kept her unique nose. Not only was her powerful resolve a needed wake up call for those in the movie industry, it also inspired another talented woman, Lea Michele, to show the same respect for her genetic nose. Another influential woman who had the strength to accept her unconventionality was Audrey Hepburn. Living in an era that honored a full- figured physique, Audrey had the confidence to say, “There is more to sex appeal than just measurements…. I can convey just as much sex appeal, picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain.”

In conclusion, I always thought that there was only one type of beauty and that only others could judge if someone is beautiful. Now, I understand that everyone is beautiful in their own way and that I do not need compliments from others to feel beautiful. Personally, the true meaning of beauty is to able to look in the mirror and be content with what you look like and who you are. Contrary to what Beyonce says, it is okay not to feel flawless as long as you see the greatness in your flaws!

Can Tall Girls Wear Heels?

All my life I have felt insecure because of my height. When I looked in the mirror, I always perceived that my height made me look man-ish or EXTREMELY unattractive. It took me years to think, or even look at, a pair of heels. It was when I moved to the big city that I told myself, “Hey, I can wear whatever I want to wear!”And so, I started to wear heels at school. Then, the indignant comments began.

“OMG why are you wearing those? You are already tall enough!”

“Wow you are such a giant!”.

“Girl you need to take those off, you already make me feel short!”

I began to feel even more self conscious, to the point where I truly hated myself! I remember one time I lied on my bed and started to cry,immensely. I just kept replaying in my mind the harsh looks and crude comments I received from others that day. Finally, my mother saw that I was distressed and asked what was wrong. I told her about the rude remarks I was getting from my peers due to wearing heels. At that moment, my mother gave me precious advice that I have always remembered, even til this today!

1) DO WHAT YOU WANT: Why should you stop doing what you like because someone dislikes it? Skrew that! If you are not hurting yourself or others, then it’s perfectly fine. If you are tall and love your heels, then I say girl, “Werk it”!

2) THEY ONLY SAY THINGS BECAUSE THEY ARE INSECURE/JEALOUS: Think about it. Why would someone shorter than you care that you are wearing heels unless they are insecure about their height. Some people like to retaliate on others by making them feel less about themselves because,internally,they feel inferior. NEVER let someone make you feel bad about yourself because you are BEAUTIFUL:)

3) DON’T BE RUDE. JUST CALMLY SAY YOUR PLEA. If someone ask you, “Why do you wear heels?” Don’t become belligerent. I know, it’s very annoying when people always ask that question, but there is no reason to get upset or mad. Just calmly reply to it.

4) ALWAYS BE CONFIDENT. Don’t ever doubt yourself. No matter if you are 5’6 or 6’2, your height is beautiful. Heels are just a fashionable way for us to show off our gorgeous long legs 🙂 Always remember three things, “Pose.Strut.Werk!”

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