My New Perspective on Beauty

Although it took decades, I have finally realized that not everyone, including myself, can be drop dead gorgeous. I’m not the girl with the beautiful hazel eyes, perfect round jawline and exquisite narrow nose. For years, I have been struggling with the realization that there is a large majority of people that may not find me attractive. At first, this realization did upset me because I wanted to be that girl who had 4 or 5 gorgeous guys follow her around like puppy dogs! (Yeah, I watched WAY too many RomComs when I was younger). As a nine year old, I had envisioned my high school life to be full of receiving sweet and flattering attention from the opposite sex, but only if I was “that” girl. Needless to say, I will NEVER be “that” girl! As I get older, I am realizing that not being seen this way is quite okay. There are so many women who strive, even going as far as changing their physical appearance, to look like models, actresses or even music artists who are perceived in “that” way. But why should we try to look like someone with no rare essence or features? Also, who gave media and entertainment the privilege to choose what is considered beautiful and what is not? We should not have to feel that the only way to feel good about ourselves is to try to mirror the looks of a self absorbed pop star or model that probably went under the knife and lied that they were “born with their face”. Let’s stop this repetitive cycle of craving to look like these people on television and despising our own physical flaws! Our physical flaws make us powerful and unique when we cherish them. It can be easy to get down on yourself and negatively talk about something you may not like about your body. Instead, try to accept that you were born with it and make it something positive. There is nothing wrong with being unconventional and not looking like an airbrush model out of a magazine.

One person that I truly respect for sticking to her own rules and not breaking down to society’s standards of beauty is Barbara Streisand. Many in Hollywood advised her that getting a nose job would substantially aid her career. Although this “advice” may have been tempting for Barbara, she continued to stay true to herself and kept her unique nose. Not only was her powerful resolve a needed wake up call for those in the movie industry, it also inspired another talented woman, Lea Michele, to show the same respect for her genetic nose. Another influential woman who had the strength to accept her unconventionality was Audrey Hepburn. Living in an era that honored a full- figured physique, Audrey had the confidence to say, “There is more to sex appeal than just measurements…. I can convey just as much sex appeal, picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain.”

In conclusion, I always thought that there was only one type of beauty and that only others could judge if someone is beautiful. Now, I understand that everyone is beautiful in their own way and that I do not need compliments from others to feel beautiful. Personally, the true meaning of beauty is to able to look in the mirror and be content with what you look like and who you are. Contrary to what Beyonce says, it is okay not to feel flawless as long as you see the greatness in your flaws!

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How To Chase A Dream?

Everyone has ambitions, goals and aspiration for their lives. These goals aid people to strive to become the best version of themselves! Each and every day, many people assuredly believe that they have the personal ability to exert themselves to obtain their dreams. As an 18 year old girl, I often ponder over questions such as, In a world full of winners and losers, didn’t the losers have the same intention and drive as the winners? If you don’t reach your dream, does that make you a failure? Is there even a point to believing in dreams when so many never reach them?

Ever since I was young, I was told by peers and teachers that “if you believe it, you can achieve it!” and to “never doubt yourself”. Well, honestly, I believe a little doubt may be humbling. It can allow you the opportunity to reevaluate how attainable your goal is and to experiment with other ways to reach it. As far as the “believe it, achieve it” campaign, I think it goes further than what our parents and school systems taught us. Belief isn’t just having reoccurring thoughts and notions that something may happen. It also relies heavily on our actions and what we are physical doing to make that dream a reality. One thing I always tell day-dreamers is that there is difference between goals and dreams. This is how I look at it: Dreams are like a movie production. After all the stress and countless hours of hard work, you can finally relax and view what all your hard work aided you to produce. Goals are the small, intricate steps and stressful work that the director, producers, and actors had to put in to make the movie. Many people who believe that having a dream and thinking about it all the time is just enough. It’s Not!! In order to have success, we have to be active! At James 2:17, it states “faith by itself, without works, is dead”. Although that scripture spoke more about being active in doing God’s will, I think it is still a good principle to remember. Having faith in something is pretty useless if we do not physically try to show our faith.

What about those who tried to achieve their dream, yet never attained it. Are they losers? In my opinion, No! Although you may not have received your initial dream, your dedication and effort may have still opened the door to an even better outcome than you could have imagined. Sometimes I believe that we are too focused on the destination that we do not consider or even appreciate all the adventures and experience that the voyage allowed us to add to our inventory of skills. We should never give up just because a circumstance may not have gone our way. Life is all about developing tough skin, so its best that we learn from our experiences, then positively move on. Also, dreams change all the time! We may believe that we know exactly what we want, yet situations and acquiring more knowledge may make us change our mind.

So, is there even a point to dreaming when many will not have the opportunity to even try to make their dream real? Yes, there is! Although there is a strong possibility that many of us may never even see a glimpse of our dream in real life, it is still really important to have dreams. They make us want better for ourselves and help us to never become complacent with a dull lifestyle. Without dreams and aspiration what would be the purpose of getting up every morning and going to school or work! Dreams help us to keep living, especially when tragic situations arrive. Take my father for example. Ever since his college years, he has held on to this dream of becoming a successful music producer. Did he achieve it? no. Yet, that dream is probably one of the few reasons that he is able to wake up every day and keep on striving to do whatever it takes to create the life he has always wanted. Now, am I saying it is sane to hold on to unrealistic dreams? No. But, I am saying that dreams allow for hopeful wishing, which gives a desire to keep on living.

Honestly, its scary to think that all the dreams I have may never come true, but that does not mean I can give up on trying to shape my own life! Yes, this world is cruel and unfair, but as long as I have the Almighty God and I keep trying to please Him, I know that He will lead me in the right direction. After all, one of my dreams came true. A couple of months ago, I was able to go to the city I never thought I would have the chance to visit, NEW YORK! My next goal is hopefully saving up money to buy a place in the city. So tell me, what are your dreams and what are your plans on getting there?

– Take Care, Properly Posh