We live in a world where social interaction is a vital process in survival. So, it is extremely crucial for us to receive an adequate amount of attention from other human beings. It is also very important to fill the void of loneliness in our life by developing a small to large group of associates that share the same interests or ideas as us. Now, socialization is all fine and dandy when you find the right group of friends, but what if you NEVER feel like you belong anywhere?!?
This is how I am feeling at the moment.. No matter what I do or who I meet, I feel like I do not belong. I also feel that I really cannot put myself in a correct subculture to describe my interests and things that I like. People can immediately distinct themselves as a nerd, fangirl or even a skater. Yet, my interests are ALL OVER THE PLACE that I really cannot put a label on myself. I know that it is weird and probably really stupid to stress over, but it can be rather sad when you believe that you will never find people you can identify with! My first encounter with this realization was when my roommate stated that she was a geek and she loved being that way! I started to think that I do like similar entertainment choices as her, but I don’t think that people who identify as “geeks” would accept me into their subculture because of other interests that I like. I started to think about where I may belong and, NOPE, NADA, NOTHING came to mind!! Then, I started to feel very subconscious and fearful that I may not fit in anywhere or with anybody!
Does anyone else feel like this? It is a peculiar type of loneliness that I have struggled with all of my life! The feeling that no matter how many people you meet or friends you make, you will ALWAYS feel like you don’t belong. Like the ultimate outsider.
I have come to terms that I am a bit different from people I regularly meet and that’s okay! I am learning everyday that feeling this way actually helps me to meet people with different interests and learn new, exciting things. If you suffer from this strange cognition as I do, don’t fret! We will get through this together!
P.S.: Please comment or email your stories if you ever felt this way! I would love to hear them and know that I am not alone in the world
For today, I wanted to wear a chic and classic look using my light Pink Joe Fresh skirt that I bought from JC Penney. Technically, it was a dress but since I’m so tall, I usually wear it as a skirt.
#tallgirlprobz. Instead of wearing a simply white button up or t shirt, I decided to wear my Chico blue button up shirt to bring out the lovely blue color in the pattern of the skirt.
For shoes and accessories, I wore nude kitten heels and my blue heart necklace from Old Navy. I also added a few silver bangles for my bare wrist.
Tip:I love wearing frilly skirts with a belt clasped at the waist. This feminine silhouette defines my waist and helps to make me look more curvy for my rather slender body. If you are girl with a more slender body type, try out this tip! I guarantee that after one try, it will become your new signature look!
– Take Care,
One of my favorite designers at the time is Prabal Gurung! Due to his exquisite patterns and ultra feminine silhouettes, there is no wonder why I fell in love with all of his designs. Here are a few looks from his 2014 Spring/Summer Collection. Check out the rest of his collection here!
Although it took decades, I have finally realized that not everyone, including myself, can be drop dead gorgeous. I’m not the girl with the beautiful hazel eyes, perfect round jawline and exquisite narrow nose. For years, I have been struggling with the realization that there is a large majority of people that may not find me attractive. At first, this realization did upset me because I wanted to be that girl who had 4 or 5 gorgeous guys follow her around like puppy dogs! (Yeah, I watched WAY too many RomComs when I was younger). As a nine year old, I had envisioned my high school life to be full of receiving sweet and flattering attention from the opposite sex, but only if I was “that” girl. Needless to say, I will NEVER be “that” girl! As I get older, I am realizing that not being seen this way is quite okay. There are so many women who strive, even going as far as changing their physical appearance, to look like models, actresses or even music artists who are perceived in “that” way. But why should we try to look like someone with no rare essence or features? Also, who gave media and entertainment the privilege to choose what is considered beautiful and what is not? We should not have to feel that the only way to feel good about ourselves is to try to mirror the looks of a self absorbed pop star or model that probably went under the knife and lied that they were “born with their face”. Let’s stop this repetitive cycle of craving to look like these people on television and despising our own physical flaws! Our physical flaws make us powerful and unique when we cherish them. It can be easy to get down on yourself and negatively talk about something you may not like about your body. Instead, try to accept that you were born with it and make it something positive. There is nothing wrong with being unconventional and not looking like an airbrush model out of a magazine.
One person that I truly respect for sticking to her own rules and not breaking down to society’s standards of beauty is Barbara Streisand. Many in Hollywood advised her that getting a nose job would substantially aid her career. Although this “advice” may have been tempting for Barbara, she continued to stay true to herself and kept her unique nose. Not only was her powerful resolve a needed wake up call for those in the movie industry, it also inspired another talented woman, Lea Michele, to show the same respect for her genetic nose. Another influential woman who had the strength to accept her unconventionality was Audrey Hepburn. Living in an era that honored a full- figured physique, Audrey had the confidence to say, “There is more to sex appeal than just measurements…. I can convey just as much sex appeal, picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain.”
In conclusion, I always thought that there was only one type of beauty and that only others could judge if someone is beautiful. Now, I understand that everyone is beautiful in their own way and that I do not need compliments from others to feel beautiful. Personally, the true meaning of beauty is to able to look in the mirror and be content with what you look like and who you are. Contrary to what Beyonce says, it is okay not to feel flawless as long as you see the greatness in your flaws!
I hope everyone had a great Sunday! For today’s look, I really wanted to capture the essence of a chic and sophisticated look. So I paired my thrifted black blazer with my new monochromatic patterned pencil skirt. To add color to this look, I also wore my Joe Fresh purple sweater.
When I think of what a sophisticated outfit entails, the first thing that I think of are Mary Jane Pumps. Thankfully, I was able to get these Mary Janes for only $20 last year!
Although this style may not be the trendiest, I enjoy it’s simplicity and chicness. It’s nice to be able to wear a classic look from time to time. It’s amazing to realize that clothing items that are considered classic, like Mary Jane Pumps, are still around. To me, they will never go out of style.
So tell me what do you think of a classic look? Is it a style that will always be cherished or is it something that is fading to the background in this world that loves a youthful and urban style? Let me know in the comments below and also tell me what type of style you like the most!
– Properly Posh
The weather was wonderful for the end of the week. I think that a nice sunny day is something we all need due to the brutal winter we all had to suffer. To celebrate this very warm day, I decided to wear my new patterned pants, or what many people call “pj” pants.
The fabric is extremely soft and it feels like your wearing, well, a pair of pajamas. Due to the thinness of the fabric, I wanted to wait for a nice, cool day to bust these out to wear to class. I paired my button down white collar top with a pair of oxford flats to keep the outfit casual.
For accessories, I wore my triangle and owl necklace. I do not always wear two necklaces at once, but I thought it was appropriate since the triangle necklace is closer to my neck and the owl necklace has a longer chain. If you would like to try to wear more than one necklace at a time, try not to over accessorize. Two to three necklaces at different lengths will suggest that you are a trendsetter. More than that just looks like too much and can make your ensemble look overwhelming. Make sure that you do not wear a lot of rings, bracelets and earrings as well. That can also make your outfit look too busy. Remember, accessories are meant to enhance an outfit, not take away from it.
– Properly Posh
Winter has been brutal this year, even in states that rarely receive a snowflake. Although the weather has been extremely cold for the past week or two, I shall not let that stop me for trying to look my best every day! My highlight outfit for this week is definitely my black and white skirt with my black thrifted sweater. This black and white skirt is actually a dress that I have had since I was 6 or 7 years old! Once I went through my awkward growth spurt stage in my tween years, I never thought it would appropriately fit me. Recently, I found the skirt in the back of my closet and decided to try it on for old time sake. And shockingly, it hit just above my knee, which is appropriate length from my perspective. I added a pair of opaque tights and my Rue 21 olive jacket.
Now, there’s a moral to the story. Don’t throw away or give up on clothing items that you may not like at the time or cannot fit into. You may change your perspective later in the future or your body may physically change. Also, push your creative buttons! If your perspective does not change, make a DIY project out it by altering the clothing item into something that you find unique and interesting.
– Properly Posh